Posts Tagged ‘transformational’
Believing you are not creates all kinds of drama and suffering in one’s life.
You are not the way you should be, you are not good enough, perfect enough or wealthy enough. These are some of the erroneous beliefs we have accepted as truth. The truth is, in potential we are all whole and complete. No amount of searching outside ourselves to fill any perceive holes within can validate this truth. Believing the lies that you are not sends you on a search for an image outside yourself. When really you should be unleashing the image into the world.
Sometimes we believe so wholeheartedly these lies that we create structures in our lives to support them. The only way to prove this theory is to attempt pulling down the structures you have created and examine their foundations thoroughly. Simply try stop pretending to be what you’re not. Keeping up with the Jones, or the need to impress parents and friends as you conceal the insecurities and self judgments that needs healing. All those structures are really stories you have bought into.
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The best hope for a revolutionary transformation to take place to create a world that works for everyone is a worldwide, grassroots revolution of love in action, based in authentic community.
In this community we have to engage in open conversation and communication between elders honed by sometimes brutal experience and the wise and impassioned young, hungry for a way out of terminal disaster and for a way of life in alignment with their hunger for a new way of being and doing everything.
We long to be connected with others in an authentic community. What steps can we take to create authentic communities? Authentic communities welcome new people from all backgrounds. Authentic community does not have a max capacity there is always room for someone else that may need and can offer what your community is up to. Authentic communities collaborate with others. Before change can take place, leaders must recognize the need for intentional collaboration regarding policies, procedures and decisions. Only collaborative leadership can make communities succeed. Authentic communities empower those on the same mission. The greatest path to success is the path that helps lead other people to it. Authentic communities doesn’t just include people, it involves them. We should absolutely be welcoming of new people.
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“A perfectionist is a person who takes great pains, and gives even greater pain to others.”
I came across this thought recently and had to pause for a moment. The endless pursuit of perfection is a psychological sickness that destroys all possibilities of inner growth. It destroys the beingness of our uniqueness and talents as one goes about attempting to attain the impossible. Everybody is trying to be perfect. And the moment somebody starts trying to be perfect he starts expecting everybody else to be perfect. This is the misery of the impossible goal. Condemning, humiliating and giving unsolicited opinions to others ruin the authenticity of self and relationships.
One then begins to feel guilty when he awakens from the illusion that he cannot be perfect. This awakening can come with much sadness and hurt as one loses respect for self and ultimately all others. Imagine what it would be like hanging around this person. The truth is we are hanging around or being this person every day. A perfectionist takes time day and night in the fight with self to be something he or she cannot be and makes those around them very miserable.
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What the average call excellent, the excellent call average.
To leave your mark in the world you will have to stand some place you have never been willing to stand before. You must have the courage to aspire to excellence. You must be willing to break the spell of average.
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Are you tired of people pleasing?
Are you over not meeting other people’s expectation for you? Give yourself permission to be your best self then. Now is the time to take back control of your life. Too often we spend our days seeking the approval of those around us and end up living a life of misery.
For me people pleasing started very early. I recall feeling a sense of not enough after my mother migrated and left me with my relatives. Here I was a dark-skinned little girl surrounded by family and siblings that I thought didn’t look like me. Yes, I knew in kindergarten that I looked different from my sisters because those around me made it known. I sought so hard to be loved and accepted. To simply be liked and considered beautiful. Little did I know that this thought pattern would follow me into my adult years.
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Nothing for me is more profound that experiencing a room filled with toddlers that are uninhibited and filled with authentic self-expression. There are no filters to the words they speak or even the language of their bodies. Sometimes I am able to experience this with kindergarteners but the subtle signs of conditioning are already settling in. They are already being told that their movements are inappropriate and certain expectations from parents and adults are made known.
With toddlers the beauty of others and the world are fresh and filled with curiosity. The bewilderment in their eyes is contagious. Sadly, by the time they get to first grade the light is dim and only a flicker is often time visible. When they become adults the struggle becomes real when there is an attempt to recapture this state of being. To be hopeful and filled with possibilities when so much has told you the opposite of your beingness. Certainly there is a level of undoing and untethering that must take place to find this space within again.
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“H.I.P. people know that each moment is the opportunity they’ve been waiting for.
Be H.I.P. Wait no more. This is it!” ~ Coach T
My grandmother taught us the tale “milking the cow.” This term can be used literally and figuratively. For her growing up and being told to milk the cow could just simple be go outside and physically get milk from the cow.
By the time I came along mama was no longer in the countryside of the island and although I knew what cows looked like we didn’t have cows in the backyard. Times had changed significantly and with a large family to feed “milking the cow” became squeezing the last drop out of every dollar. We had to learn how to pinch the penny, squandering wasn’t allowed and only the real special occasion allowed individual treats. Yes! Pinching the dollar or stretching the money by getting only items that could feed many versus just one was the norm in our household.
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Light is the form of energy that makes its possible to see things. The highest and best understanding we can apprehend is clear knowledge of God that unfolds from within the innermost level of our being.
Our relationships offer us the greatest opportunities to gain a clear knowledge of God, because they provide us feedback on where we are not seeing the Divine – in ourselves. We all have blind spots – so others provide us a mirror – reflecting to us how much of the Divine we actually understand and embrace of ourselves.
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I Speak Of Intentionally Working At
Mastery…
Authority…
Dominion..
Of Over Yourself.
Yes, that M.A.D.!
Have you hear this said before about an athlete “he could be one of the great competitors of his time, but he doesn’t know how to manage himself”
Being M.A.D. is about bringing all parts of one’s life under personal control and to live in personal harmony that is economic (not wasteful), effective (not weak) and satisfying (not guilt-producing). Some people relate to this notion as self-discipline.
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“H.I.P. people are aware that peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others. Be H.I.P. stop trying to change others.”
Chances are you have people in your life whose behavior you wish you could change. Your romantic partner might be putting on a little weight. Your parents may complain too much. Your best friend won’t look for a new job, even though she hates the job she has now.
Once you notice these annoyances, it is natural to want to push people to change. However, is it actually possible to change someone’s behavior? Should you even try? At what price? When we have the urge to try to change someone we are really saying that we are not satisfied with our own Self, we are not at peace with ourselves, for it is our own Self through which we see, hear and judge. Whenever we try to improve someone we are in some way moving into physical or mental manipulation or into the psychological approach and you are ultimately dealing with the effects rather than with cause.
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