Archive for the ‘Personal Development’ Category
“H.I.P. people are aware that peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others. Be H.I.P. stop trying to change others.”
Chances are you have people in your life whose behavior you wish you could change. Your romantic partner might be putting on a little weight. Your parents may complain too much. Your best friend won’t look for a new job, even though she hates the job she has now.
Once you notice these annoyances, it is natural to want to push people to change. However, is it actually possible to change someone’s behavior? Should you even try? At what price? When we have the urge to try to change someone we are really saying that we are not satisfied with our own Self, we are not at peace with ourselves, for it is our own Self through which we see, hear and judge. Whenever we try to improve someone we are in some way moving into physical or mental manipulation or into the psychological approach and you are ultimately dealing with the effects rather than with cause.
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You can’t prevent yourself or your partner from having an attraction to someone else.
Attraction is a natural part of life. It will happen. Energy is just energy. If you suppress that natural flow of attraction, what will often happen is that you will end up disconnecting from a part of yourself, which in turn affect the flow of chemistry between you and your partner.
If you let them know how you feel up front, they at least have a choice whether to continue in the relationship with you or not, rather than being there under false pretense. If you both agree to be monogamous and faithful to each other, then honor that commitment. But if it’s not your authentic truth and you are simply agreeing to what you think you should, then you are already being unfaithful to yourself and your partner.
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To love, trust and honor yourself is the ultimate foundation for any relationship.
The relationship with yourself is mirrored in the relationship with the partners that you attract into your life. Each moment we are at choice – a choice to choose love or a choice to choose fear. A choice to cheat or a choice to live with integrity. Every relationship is the opportunity to practice integrity and to live your spirituality in everyday life. When you don’t honor what you truly feel or your deepest truth in a relationship, you cheat on yourself and this is when unfaithfulness begins.
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One of our staple business expense is an annual subscription to Success Magazine.
It is perhaps one of the most exciting times to the mail box monthly and then of course there is that fight of who gets to listen to the cd first. But we enjoy this magazine because it is current and rich with information that supports us as entrepreneurs to consistently live on purpose. The information is practical and for me I am always excited to see who is on the cover and what insights can I get to take us to the next level.
I don’t remember what issue we got these commandments from but if you aren’t a subscriber we want to share this information with you so that you too can be inspired. Get the magazine monthly, you will definitely not be disappointed! Share with us if you are already practicing any of these commandments, which and how is it working for you:
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7 Steps To Having No Problems
We would love to share with you “7 of our most favorite steps to having no problems” in your life as taken from Coachville coaching materials, which Coach T is also trained in.
We are certain if practiced, these tools will open your life to experience more joy.
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Hang out exclusively with people who have zero problems. This may require a new address book.
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Simplify your life. A complicated life is a request for problems.
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How sad that we often diminish our best gifts
By struggling valiantly to develop in someone else area of ability. It is better to focus on your uniqueness and do that with excellence than to end up with mediocrity in several areas.
Use this rule of thumb for organizing your work strategy:
Work where you are the strongest 80 percent of the time.
Work where you are learning 15 percent of the time.
Work where you are weak 5 percent of the time.
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Relationships allow us to grow and evolve. In fact relationship serves its purpose for mirroring and giving us feedback on how we are doing in our process of becoming. What we aim to do at Charles & Shakira Unlimited is support individuals in experiencing conscious relationships. This is where people choose for a state of awareness what they are participating in. We want for you to design your relationships, to hold a vision for your relationships and ultimately to actively participate in becoming the best you so that your relationships may flourish naturally. Relationships were not designed to be easy but with the proper tools they can be quiet rewarding.
Here is a thought for you to ponder on Discipline at a higher level:
“Rules should arise out of your understanding. They should not be imposed from the outside. Discipline should not be slavery. All true discipline is self-discipline and self-discipline is never against freedom. Only disciplined people become free, but their discipline is not obedience to others: their discipline is obedience to their own voice.”
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I have been thinking
Lately about the amount of time spent getting to know others. The consistent strife to find out what another person is thinking or doing, the constant trying to be in the know game. I was sitting at a graduation yesterday that Charles had to address the graduates. The group of friends next to me never spoke a word to each other. They were busy on their phones watching videos (without a headset I might add) or text messaging. Charles and I got into the conversation of why this was so. Is the person next to you not your friend? Do you not find them interesting?
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Now that you have made the decision to be married, take the initiative to arrange for pre-marital counseling.
Most people think that the dynamics or a good marriage depend on some magical blend of the “right” people and that all you need is love. NOT! Both individuals must be open to attending these sessions. You will be asked to complete a pre-marital profile, which will address key topics including such as:
- Sound beginnings & expectations
- Communication
- Sharing feelings
- Personality/relating style
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