Archive for the ‘Shadow Work’ Category
The ability to focus completely on what your partner is sharing and not sharing and to understand the meaning of what is said in the context of your partner’s desires is called active listening. This art can be practiced and developed over time if you consciously choose to do some cleanup work on yourself. It is imperative that the cleanup process takes place as active listening calls for you to be open and free from your own personal agendas.
Making yourself available in this way is also a memorable and sexy trait that is love’s first duty. Having developed this skill your partner will sense or feel into the space of deep connection with you as you allow him or her to vent and get clear without judgment or interruptions.
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“H.I.P. people know that confusion is a game we play to keep ourselves stuck in mediocrity. Be H.I.P. Practice trusting your heart.” ~ Coach T
There is an old proverb that says “God is not in confusion” (substitute God for what is appropriate to you) and I cannot tell you how many times this mantra / proverb has parted the red seas of my mind. By simply breathing in and repeating it to self a few times I have been able to pause and gather myself.
Often times you will find that whenever a shift or decision needs to be made some stuff will present itself before you. This usually happen because of fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of the repercussions or fear of the newness that is seeking to express itself in your life. There are also times when you experience gridlock in communication, with no solutions in sight…. Divine is not in confusion! Getting a clear sense of direction is very important during these times. In fact it is best to refrain from any or all life altering decisions when confusion is your state.
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Light is the form of energy that makes its possible to see things. The highest and best understanding we can apprehend is clear knowledge of God that unfolds from within the innermost level of our being.
Our relationships offer us the greatest opportunities to gain a clear knowledge of God, because they provide us feedback on where we are not seeing the Divine – in ourselves. We all have blind spots – so others provide us a mirror – reflecting to us how much of the Divine we actually understand and embrace of ourselves.
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Boundaries
Means by which the self knows who it is and who it isn’t. They determine not only where I end and you begin but the space between us. It is essential that couples aspiring the live H.I.P. lives and experience H.I.P. relationships cultivate healthy boundaries in which to flourish.
The boundaries you establish will support you in dealing with intimacy, loneliness, conflict, anxiety, stress and challenge at every stage of your life. They are integral to how your identity is constructed. What I like to say is ” some people are on the patio and some make it to your bedroom.” Clear boundaries will allow you to speak with confidence and assurance what you are willing to accept and really just how much you value yourself.
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Although there are 28 principles of attraction as espoused by Thomas Leonard I would like to share my favorite 11 with you that deeply aligns with the inner work that is conducted through our Breakthrough Shadow Coaching. It is very important that we not just clean up the outside of our lives to be attractive and ultimately attract but understand that when we clean up the inside we automatically pulls the beauty of life towards us. It is that simple!
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“H.I.P. people are aware that peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others. Be H.I.P. stop trying to change others.”
Chances are you have people in your life whose behavior you wish you could change. Your romantic partner might be putting on a little weight. Your parents may complain too much. Your best friend won’t look for a new job, even though she hates the job she has now.
Once you notice these annoyances, it is natural to want to push people to change. However, is it actually possible to change someone’s behavior? Should you even try? At what price? When we have the urge to try to change someone we are really saying that we are not satisfied with our own Self, we are not at peace with ourselves, for it is our own Self through which we see, hear and judge. Whenever we try to improve someone we are in some way moving into physical or mental manipulation or into the psychological approach and you are ultimately dealing with the effects rather than with cause.
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You can’t prevent yourself or your partner from having an attraction to someone else.
Attraction is a natural part of life. It will happen. Energy is just energy. If you suppress that natural flow of attraction, what will often happen is that you will end up disconnecting from a part of yourself, which in turn affect the flow of chemistry between you and your partner.
If you let them know how you feel up front, they at least have a choice whether to continue in the relationship with you or not, rather than being there under false pretense. If you both agree to be monogamous and faithful to each other, then honor that commitment. But if it’s not your authentic truth and you are simply agreeing to what you think you should, then you are already being unfaithful to yourself and your partner.
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To love, trust and honor yourself is the ultimate foundation for any relationship.
The relationship with yourself is mirrored in the relationship with the partners that you attract into your life. Each moment we are at choice – a choice to choose love or a choice to choose fear. A choice to cheat or a choice to live with integrity. Every relationship is the opportunity to practice integrity and to live your spirituality in everyday life. When you don’t honor what you truly feel or your deepest truth in a relationship, you cheat on yourself and this is when unfaithfulness begins.
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How sad that we often diminish our best gifts
By struggling valiantly to develop in someone else area of ability. It is better to focus on your uniqueness and do that with excellence than to end up with mediocrity in several areas.
Use this rule of thumb for organizing your work strategy:
Work where you are the strongest 80 percent of the time.
Work where you are learning 15 percent of the time.
Work where you are weak 5 percent of the time.
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When we speak of transformation by renewing the mind
We speak of the instantaneous or gradual process of consciously changing thought patterns until the subconscious surrenders its old pattern for the new. Changing subjective thought patterns by supplying spiritual ideas will create new conditions in body and affairs and this is what we all seek. All the theory in the world is useless unless we know how to apply it and make a change.
The basic principles for practical application of changing are:
1. Continued willingness to let go of the past
2. Controlling what we think about all day
3. Learning how forgiveness of self and others releases us from the past and brings about physical healing
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